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In all of our dreams, the true meanings emerge when we decide what they really mean to us. Though these dream symbols are shared among many, and we can determine general explanations for them, it is the context in which we place them that is significant. Read all you can about dream meanings to find information that may be relevant to you, but also ask questions about your dreams similar to the ones below:

1. Upon awakening from a dream, what was I feeling? Was I happy, sad, angry, scared?

2. What is the plot of the dream? Look at it objectively as a viewer. What are the actions and interactions between each character in the dream? Do any of those characteristics apply to me? Do I act like that, or talk that way to others?

3. What is the major concern in my life right now? (i.e. fear of being laid off from work)?

4. Is there a person/situation I am running from or trying to avoid? What is the major action going on in the dream? Are you the observer or are you participating?

5. If you are in the dream, what are your actions? Does the dream tie in with your concern about work? Are you running from someone or to someone? Are you driving fast, flying high or slowly walking? Observe the interactions between characters.

6. Who do the other people in my dream represent? Define each person and their characteristics. How do those characteristics mirror you? (Example: my Mom is always disrespectful of others and speaks her mind, doesn’t care who she hurts). Is the dream showing you doing the same thing or maybe you have a need to learn how to be more assertive with others? If there is a clown in your dream, are you a class clown or is there a need to lighten up and clown around a little more? Maybe you need some laughter in your life?

7. Who was the main character in the dream? Who has the control?

8. Was this a spiritual dream? A prophetic dream of the future? A physical condition that needs attention or is it a symbolic dream?

Dreams should make sense to you in terms of your present life situation/s and help you to first see the flaw, secondly to show you how to make some constructive changes.Dreams tend to occur in a series, stating a situation which needs your attention. It repeats itself, using different symbols, but the message is the same. The dream stops when you finally understand the message and you start working on the issue at hand.

God is always helping us to grow in our salvation and to become more like Christ. He shows us our flaws through people, places, situations and things of which symbolize something unique to you. God uses symbols that YOU will understand. He dials direct to the dreamer. Ask yourself, What does that person, place or thing mean to me personally?

Whenever I see a storm a brewing in my dreams, I know I’m getting stressed and I need to relax before my emotions get out of control. Someone with a bad temper may see a storm in his dreams to show him his effect on others whenever he is out of control, especially a tornado which destroys everything in its path. We don’t always see the damage we do to others by our words and/or actions, therefore the dream is pointing that out to you.

Read and enjoy as many books on symbology as you can and then start your own dream journal of symbols. If you read in Dreambooks.com that BUGS mean that a “disgustingly revolting complication” will arise in your daily life, but that just doesn’t feel right to you, then keep looking until you find what meaning sounds correct to you.

However, Dream Moods takes bugs more literally, as in something that’s bugging you. To dream of bugs suggests you are worried about something and experiencing some anxiety and fear. I have found that this particular meaning usually applies to me whenever I dream about bugs. For you, it might mean something totally different, so never doubt yourself. Go with your gut. If you get the interpretation wrong…a dream will show up again and get you back on track. Just the mere fact that you honor the dream message is a huge step in the right direction.

May the truth you see, set you free!

Put Fear Back Where It Belongs!
By Dr Kathleen Pfaff

Lessons in fear can be difficult to identify and not easy to categorize its source. Yet, these lessons are an important aspect of our spiritual journey because they hold information about our past, and how it affects what is happening in the present and our future. To heal our fear we must look it in the eye and send it back from where it came… in the past.

All fear comes from the past. Any fear about the future is related to a fear from the past. Any fear in the present is something we have manifested from focusing on a past fear. We can be afraid of what may happen, of what could happen or a potential outcome from a situation. All of those fears will have some basis in the past. We can be afraid of the water, for example, because either you have almost drowned, saw someone else drown, been taught to fear the water by someone else who fears it, or any other negative experience you may have had with water. Those experiences become part of your mental programming which can paralyze you if you allow it.

Our fear may prevent us from ever going swimming, stepping onto a boat or being near large bodies of water even though logically and rationally there is nothing to fear. Typically we humans want to avoid these thoughts and feelings that may allow our fear to materialize, so we find alternative ways of coping (this can include: drinking it away or taking some other mind altering substances) to make the fear “temporarily go away.” You may make up a hundred excuses why you don’t go near water or you can keep very busy so you don’t have to think about it. But what happens when you go to sleep? Any reoccurring nightmares about water perhaps or, re-living the event that caused the fear in the first place?

The fear is still there with us. Finding the cause of the fear would help us to put it into perspective. We need to challenge the belief about why we fear this certain thing? What do we believe will happen if you confront the fear? What is the very worst thing that might happen if you face your Demon? “Well Dr Kathy, I could drown if I go in the water.” Yes, you might drown if you go alone and don’t yet know how to swim. But if you take all the precautions and think it through there is a much better chance that you won’t drown. Once you face the fear, you may still be uncomfortable around the water, but it won’t paralyze you any longer. You are no longer a “slave” to it.

“For you did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave again to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship. [ Or adoption], And by him we cry, “Abba, Father.” Romans 8:15

Until we identify our fear/s and discover its source it holds us captive, reminding us of a potential outcome that has not yet happened and may never will. We worry about the “coulda’s,” the “maybe’s” and the “what if’s”, rather than just facing the real issue dead on. All of our unresolved fears spill over into other parts of our life and can become a repetitive cycle. We are creating fear cycles with fearful thoughts (unaware of consciously), whose purpose is to bring our fear to light. Your spirit within knows what you need to overcome the fear. Without this understanding, our fears are a mystery that can create more fearful situations because “we attract what we fear.” Our fear can become like a magnet that draws situations to us that will reveal our fear. Without an understanding of why this is happening, we panic and lose control, forget the purpose of our journey, and our awareness is centered on our fear rather than the possible outcome. Whenever we avoid situations for reasons we do not understand except for an unnamed fear, we allow that fear to keep us paralyzed from growing spiritually and having some fun!

God will work with us to help identify our fears by allowing circumstances and situations to crop up that trigger your fear. You create them, he allows them to manifest. If that doesn’t work, he’ll remind you as you sleep, in dreams and nightmares. Those very triggers are signs that help us to discover the cause of our fear so that we can resolve it. It may feel like God is punishing you for some reason but in reality he is helping you to overcome the fear. You have all the tools you need, now its time to act on faith.

We are the children of God and he wants the best for us just as we would want the same for our children. If your child suffered from nightmares, wouldn’t you do everything in your power to help him overcome them. God doesn’t like to watch us suffer any more than we like watching our kids suffering. But God will not enable us to stay stuck, he will do what it takes to help you to conquer that fear from the past.

Each fear is like an open wound within the soul. The more control fear has, the more profound its impact on your life. Our fears represent times when we were powerless, out of control, had things happen to us that we could not prevent, suffered physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually. They are deep, and sometimes terrible wounds that also offer healing, peace, unconditional love and joy when we remember they come from the past and they can’t hurt us any longer unless we let them. Jesus came to set the captives free. Allow him at this time in your life, to heal the wounds that bind you.

Dear Dr Kathy,
I have been helping my alcoholic brother and his family for years, but no matter what I do, it never really helps, and nothing changes. “Why is it that people who need the help most, deny they have a problem and refuse to get help?” My brother’s life just goes from bad to worse. What can I do?
Thank you in advance.

Trisha in PA.

Dear Trisha,Your question is a loaded one and there is no one standard answer. I can only share my own experiences with you that might help you to understand a little more about the resistance to change.

1.We Enable Them. Most people KNOW they have a problem but as long as there are others who will enable them, there is no real reason to change. Sometimes being held accountable, setting limits, and allowing them to learn by their mistakes, is the best possible solution. When they get sick and tired of being sick and tired, they might make a decision to change.

2.It’s Just too hard To Change. Some people who are aware they have a problem, (i.e., a weight problem, an addiction of sorts, or the inability to handle finances or a bad relationship), try to get some help but it’s “just too hard to change.” Being familiar with dysfunction is believed to be safer than making a change.

3.Fear of Change. The “what if’s” kick in. What if things still don’t change, what if I lose everything, what if people talk, what will people think? When there is no guarantee of outcome, it’s a huge risk to try something different. FEAR becomes the dominant emotion that over-rides the desire to change.

4.Psychological Problems. Oftentimes there are psychological issue/s that are causing the dysfunctional behavior. For instance, an alcoholic doesn’t go to the bar the first time with the intent of becoming an alcoholic. More than likely it’s either a physical or psychological problem that causes him/her to go to the bar. It could be as simple as low self-esteem or social incompetence. It could be emotional pain, like a loss of some kind. It could be physical pain like a backache or tooth pain? The alcohol temporarily fixes the pain, so they go back to the bar again and again. The belief is, “alcohol is cheaper than a therapist or a doctor.” The alcohol abuse becomes the outward symptom of a much deeper problem. Now we have another problem…an addiction.

5.Addictions. Most addictions, (whether it be alcohol, drugs, food, gambling), is called a disease, which basically says, “I can’t stop this behavior once I start, I have NO control.” It’s been my experience that addictions are commonly started up to fill a void or to repress/avoid other psychological issues. It is also genetic if there is a history in your family. As the person continues to abuse drugs they develop a Neurological Disorder, which is a chemical disorder which creates the craving to use more drugs. For more information on this, read the following article at this link; ( http://www.medical-online.com/addict.htm).

6.Freedom of Choice. Some individuals are either not ready to change or choose not to change for various reasons. Teenagers oftentimes feel invincible and that “just trying” a substance isn’t going to hurt them. They may have a need to fit-in with peers and so they make some poor choices in order to feel a sense of belonging. Adults are just as easily swayed/manipulated into making poor choices. And, CHOICE is the one thing we can control.

7.Lack of Knowledge. Last but not least, people make poor choices because they don’t know about other options. “It’s the way I was raised and that’s how we always did it.” Counselors or mentors need to challenge the belief system and educate the client about problem solving and making better choices for their life.

I hope this has helped you understand a little more about resistence?

My prayers are with you.

DrKathy

Building trust in a relationship
Trust is the foundation for intimate, secure and successful relationships. It must be earned and maintained with consistent actions. But building trust and feeling like your partner is trustworthy is not always easy for those who have had their trust betrayed. Once your trust has been violated, it’s difficult to make it viable in your relationship again.

Trust has to be a living, breathing entity in order for a relationship to survive. This applies to romantic relationships, family relationships and friendships. So when your trust is violated, how do you overcome that and restore trust in a relationship? If you have the desire to try rebuilding trust in a relationship again or just learn to trust again in general, we have some steps you can take to get you there.

Children learn how to build trust in a relationship with their parents or caretakers early in their development. If parents are consistent in responding to their child’s needs, then that child will learn to trust them and their environment. As a child gets older, trust takes on a different form because children can process why they trust and why they don’t. It’s especially important for children to grow up in a trusting environment so that they learn how important trust is. This knowledge carries over in their attitude toward the world and all of their future relationships.

Trust may seem like an obscure concept, difficult to define. Sometimes you can’t tell if you truly trust someone, especially when you have no past experience to base it on. Trust isn’t an emotion. It’s a learned behavior that we gain from past experiences. It is hope and dependability, and putting confidence in someone. Trust is a risk. But you can’t be successful when there’s a lack of trust in a relationship that results from an action where the wrongdoer takes no repentance or responsibility to fix the mistake. When I say relationship, I mean “all” relationships. If a child never felt nurtured or protected by their parents then they grow up “not trusting Authority figures.” If a friend betrays you or a sister runs away with your boyfriend, you will have trust issues with peers, siblings and future boyfriends.

Unfortunately, we’ve all been victims of betrayal. Whether we’ve been stolen from, lied to, misled, or cheated on, there are different levels of losing trust, some more devastating than others. Regaining trust can seem as likely as winning the lottery. You may want to have faith in your partner again, but when it comes down to it, you simply don’t know how to start regaining trust in a relationship.

Sometimes people simply can’t trust anymore – they’ve been too badly hurt and they can’t bear to be that vulnerable again. It’s understandable, but if you’re willing to build trust in a relationship again, we have some tips to get you on the right path.

Learn to really trust yourself
If you don’t trust yourself, meaning your ability to have good judgment and to make good choices, how can you trust someone else? Having confidence in yourself will help you make better choices because you feel more capable and can discern what the best outcome would be for your well-being.

Just keep in mind that once your trust has been violated, your defenses start working overtime to protect yourself. Pay closer attention to your instincts and keep working on building trust in yourself.

Grieve
When a loved one dies, the natural grieving process tends to come in five stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. These five stages can also occur when you lose trust in someone. Don’t fight any of these stages. You’ll usually get through all of them – with time. Forgiveness can also be added as the sixth stage in regards to trust. If you can find it in your heart to forgive, then you’ll be able to release anger and hurt.

Stop labeling yourself the victim
If you’ve been betrayed, you are the victim of your circumstance. But there’s a difference between being a victim and living with a “victim mentality.” At some point in all of our lives, we’ll have our trust tested or violated.

Some people choose to wallow in the sting of betrayal while others make an effort to overcome it. If you choose to become a wallower, you will stifle your ability to truly heal because you’ll end up angry and blaming everyone else for something you actually have more control over than you think.

You didn’t lose “everything”
You didn’t lose everything; it just feels like you did. When we’re severely betrayed, such as being cheated on in a relationship, we tend to feel like we have lost everything that means anything to us. Once trust is lost, what is left? Instead of looking at the situation from this hopeless angle, look at everything you still have and be thankful for all of the good in your life. Seeing the positive side of things doesn’t mean you’re ignoring what happened. Instead, it’s a healthy way to work through the experience to allow room for positive growth and forgiveness.

Keep your expectations high
Avoid situations that share the same pattern of circumstance where your trust was violated. On the flip side, it’s also important to recognize that just because you’ve been violated before doesn’t mean it will automatically happen again. You have to stop the harmful belief that any new relationship will end up the same way. If you fall into this way of thinking, not only will you sell yourself short, but you may also throw away a great possibility because you’re too scared of being hurt again. Also, remember that when you give someone the best, you deserve the best in return. Don’t settle for anything less.

Losing trust in someone can have a devastating effect on your relationship, as well as your sense of self-worth, but building trust in a relationship again is possible. It takes a willingness to work on both yourself and your betrayer, but trust can be won back. And when trust in a relationship is regained, it is truly healing.

Learn How to Trust Again

When another person’s actions have shattered your ability to trust, it can be very difficult to learn to trust again. Some people never move past a broken heart. However, you can learn to trust again, even after being deeply wounded in a past relationship. You do not have to allow a person’s untrustworthiness to taint all future relationships. Here is how to learn to trust again.

1. Recognize the need to trust again. Some people fool themselves into believing that they do not need to have close relationships in their lives. However, human beings are social creatures, and need one another. Without trust, you cannot have a close relationship. Without a close relationship, life can seem empty.

2. Acknowledge areas in which you already trust. Many people, especially those who experienced deep betrayal in childhood through abuse, believe that they are unable to trust anyone in any fashion. But this is simply untrue. Even the most jaded person generally trusts the waiter to bring him food in a restaurant, or the mail carrier to deliver the mail to his mailbox.

3. Understand that one person does not have to meet all of your needs. Many people search for that one person with whom they can share their entire heart. This is not necessary in order to learn to trust again. What matters is that all of your needs are met. You can accomplish this by trusting different people with different needs.

4. Look for people who are trustworthy. The way a person treats others is a good indicator of how she might treat you. If she tells you the intimate details of another person’s life, she is likely to betray your confidence as well. However, if she never says an unkind word about another person, she is unlikely to speak poorly of you to others, either.

5. Ease into a new relationship slowly. Start by sharing small confidences and see what happens. If the person breaches a small confidence, you do not want to trust him with a larger one. However, as the person shows he is trustworthy in the smaller things, you can feel more confident about trusting him with the bigger things.

6. Trust yourself to be okay if you are betrayed. In many cases, the fear of trusting another person is more about your own fear of not being able to handle a betrayal. If you fear you will fall apart if the other person breaks your trust, you will be less likely to trust again. However, if you are confident you are going to be okay even if the other person lets you down, it will be much easier for you to learn to trust again.

7. Be patient with your progress. After you have been betrayed, it can be a challenge to learn to trust again. Give yourself the time and space you need to ease back into trusting another person again.

Yes, I believe anyone can open themselves up to negative spirits. Possession is not as dramatic as the movies such as the “Exorcist,” portrayed. We ALL experience spirit influence whether it be positive or negative. How we response to it will determine the possibility of possession. The fact is, most possessions are so subtle that it is sometimes difficult to tell if the person suffers from mood swings or an influential spirit.

Working in the field of mental health and drug addiction, I have seen my share of possessed individuals.
But instead of getting all dramatic and self righteous by performing an exorcism I simply educate the individual on how to rid their demons on their own. In MOST cases the individual is able to disarm the demon within once it has been acknowledged. Having others praying for them doesn’t hurt either.

Possession happens more frequently than we might be aware of. Murderers, rapists, ragaholics, Alcohol and drug abusers are the perfect targets for negative spirits. Also, people who are negative all the time are targets because they invite negativity in and when something negative happens, they are the first to admit, “see I told you nothing good ever comes my way.” That attitude and negative thought energy is like an open door to trouble which is why scripture emphatically states to “think on whatsoever is good, kind,”… etc

Some of the tell-tale signs of possession include one or more of these: Hearing voices, Sudden irresistible cravings for alcohol, drugs, cigarettes or other mood altering substance, Extreme fears and phobias that are unjustified, sudden changes in behaviors such as rage, depression or thoughts of suicide, having a serious illness of unknown cause, night terrors and nightmares, panic attacks and you will find a demon within a multiple personality disorder.

You can easily protect yourself and your loved ones by praying a shield of protection around them and yourself. Do this daily if possible. I pray every morning and every night and more so when I am at work with many addicts carrying negative baggage.

Example: “Thank you Lord Jesus for sealing me (or Loved one) in your white light of protection and that NO evil can enter in. Thank you that NO weapon formed against me will prosper. Thank you that I am filled with love and that nothing but good will come out of me and nothing but good will come to me.”

May God Protect you always,
DrKathy

My clients often ask me if we can visit our deceased family or friends within our dreams. The answer is absolutely YES! Whenever our loved ones pass over from human to Spirit form, they seek out loved ones they left behind to somehow let them know that they are okay. We as humans often overlook the physical signs as well as the impressions we may receive so some spirits have no other choice but to reach us through our dreams.

Many people have described their dreams with relatives as very real and the conversation is genuine. Recently a dear friend of mine, Frank, told me about several dreams he has had about his Grandfather. His Grandfather came to him to comfort him about a physical condition that killed both Grand-dad and Frank’s Mother. Frank is near the age that his family members died of this same heart disease and he worries about his own life as he has been in/out of the hospital with complications. Currently Frank is on the waiting list for a heart transplant. His Grandfather reassures him that it’s coming and Frank will have many more years to live.

I was saddened by Princess Diana’s death because she is one person I had always admired and hoped to someday meet her. Well, I asked God to visit with her and sure enough we met in my dream. She was on a bench at a playground watching children play and I sat next to her. What an awesome lady! We chatted as though we had been friends for years. That dream was such a blessing!

Another dream I had was with my Father after he died of cancer. I needed reassurance he was healed and on the other side. We spoke telepathically as with most dream conversations go, and he showed me his body was healed but it was his “spirit that needed more work.” He was not a religious man and had many regrets before he died. He told me he had not learned all of his life lessons while on earth and would be working on those on the other side. He told me to stay on the path I am on as this was God’s will for me. Dad said he would be helping my brothers from the otherside to find their way back to God’s purpose. I knew what he meant.

Dream visitations are quite common. In the sleep state our minds are no longer conscious and rational, therefore the defense mechanism that prohibits us from accepting the unseen world is asleep, being open to spiritual influence. Sometimes these visits are warnings, sometimes comfort and sometimes just because they miss you! My girlfriend Katie just told me this week that she dreamt of her husband to passed away from cancer over a year ago. She says, “I know when he is with me when I am awake but at night when he visits in my dreams, its always nice to hear that he still loves me.”

Until next time!
Blessings
DrKathy

Sexual dreams should be viewed symbolically in most cases. Sexual intercourse is a “symbol of union,” which can be seperate parts of self being united. Whenever you dream of same sex partners, try to identify the character traits of the partner. Those traits are ones you’re either wanting to merge with or have developed them within yourself already.

Opposite sex partners can be symbolic of character traits your mate has, ones you wished they had or ones another person has that you wish you could have.

If you are unhappy with your mate sexually or emotionally, its not uncommon to dream about the man/woman you wish your husband/wife could be. This dream shows you what it could be like if you make an effort to communicate with your spouse about your wants and needs. If that does not work, ask God for advice about what to do next. Yes, he even cares about our sex lives.

Unless we talk to our mates about what we need, they have no idea other than guessing. Don’t expect your partner to read your mind…speak up.

Ask the question, “In what way is there a union or joining taking place within me?” This will probably be a union of previously warring parts of yourself (for example - a merging of the workaholic part of yourself with the laid back part of yourself could appear as a dream of sexual intercourse). Or if you needed to incorporate the gift of healing into your being, you may have a dream of sexual intercourse between yourself and a person you know whose gift is that of healing.

I remember having a dream of a fat woman (me) having sex with a skinny woman. This was me learning to accept my self at whatever size I was at the time. I wanted to lose weight and did lose a lot of weight over the years but I never stopped loving the person I was on the inside. Both of these women are ME.

Sexual dreams with animals or movie stars: look up the characteristics of the animal (i.e. an owl = wisdom), then you will know what you are uniting with. Same with a movie star, what are their character traits that you would like to develop within yourself. I dreamt of having intercourse with a Male dancer because I wanted to take ballroom dance lessons. My dream gave me the okay that I can and will be a pretty good dancer if I work at it like this movie star did in his films.

One of my clients dreamt of having intercourse with a famous singer. I told her she would sing as good as he does some day. She had thought of taking voice lessons but never followed through until she had this inspiring dream. Just so you know…she sings like an angel!

There are sexual nightmares from those suffering from post traumatic stress from being raped, sexually abused or other forms of abuse which symbolize loss of personal power, feeling helpless. Some dreamers are reliving the actual event in the dream. These individuals need counseling in order to stop the nightmares from reoccurring.

If you dream about having intercourse with an ex lover or mate, it often indicates you are attracting the same kind of man/men into your life, especially the one you are with now or soon to meet. So beware!

If you have any questions regarding your sexual dreams, please don’t hesitate to write.

DrKathy

Dreams are reliable messengers. They reveal the condition of one’s heart (Dan. 2:30), as well as the voice of God within one’s heart (Acts 2:17). They may from time to time reveal direct attacks of satan or demons upon the dreamer as a warning to take immediate action to protect yourself and loved ones. Always pray before going to sleep, casting all your thoughts under the obedience of Christ, pleading the blood of Christ over your mind, your soul, your spirit, that no evil will enter in while you sleep. (Sleeping is when we are most vulnerable if we do not protect ourselves with prayer). There are no actual biblical references to demons haunting you while you sleep but through experience I have been attacked and learned quickly how to stop it from happening.

As with prophecy, the messages and warnings in dreams are conditioned upon man’s response (Ezek. 33:13-16). The dream is calling you to act or change so some calamity will not befall you. If you respond appropriately, the calamity will not come. Some dreams show you a potential future of blessings but if you do not follow the path laid out in the dream, that future may never manifest.

As a dream therapist, I attempt to show you the options set before you. I have warned some clients of a negative career choice that only they can decide whether to take the advice from the dream or take the job despite the dream.

Some clients have had dreams about a marriage that should not take place and others have had dreams of a partnership that should take place. One of my clients had a dream of the man she would meet at church and eventually marry, (with specific details) and 18 months later, I was invited to a wedding.

Recently a woman wrote to me about a dream regarding her grandson who was in Iraq, wanting to know if he were dead or alive. The symbology was so clear to me that her Grandson had crossed over and was with God which gave this woman the peace and closure she needed to move forward. Even though I was sure of the outcome, I had several interactive emails before I was able to confirm my interpretation as being correct.

When I speak of Dream therapy I intend to offer biblical advice according to the message within your dream. I expect you as the dreamer to participate in the session by answering pertinent questions pertaining to the dream message. I do not assume that I automatically know what the symbol is because not all symbols mean the same thing to every person. The message was sent to you according to your understanding and belief system. The ONLY way I will know the exact meaning is by asking questions and getting confirmation by you.

Some dreams will show us areas in our life, our marriage, our parenting styles or other personal defects in which we need to improve upon. The dream often gives advice along with showing us where we are in error. Not to worry if you did not get it all in one night, another dream will follow with similar symbols but relaying the same message. Repeated dreams occur because you did not hear and/or act on the message of the dream when it spoke to you the first time.

One of my clients had many similar dreams about ending a relationship which she fought and questioned me about over a period of months. Dreams kept coming to her telling her He was a bad choice and He was not the one God would have for her, but of course, we have free will and whatever she decided, God would honor. Her dreams warned her of many difficulties she would encounter if she stayed with this man but because she loved him it was difficult to end it, even though she knew it was the right thing to do.

Whenever you experience successive dreams on the same night, they are usually dealing with the same issue, presenting various approaches to it and offering the proper solution to the dilemma
Making changes is never easy, but it’s a necessary process to spiritual growth. If we would listen and act on our dreams as did the men of the Bible, we would not struggle as much as we do today. Our society as a whole has become so intellectual that we have put our “faith” on the back burner. Whenever we do dream, we blame it on the spicy food we ate, or the movie we watched, we doubt our worthiness to hear from God personally or we deny and minimizes the importance of the dream message. Therefore our dreams are often ignored.

Religions try to get to God through developing theologies, stirring up emotions, and living by the law of condemnation. God comes to each man individually, no matter his belief or religion. God dials direct to all mankind according to his understanding of God.
Don’t miss another night of dreaming without action!

Dr Kathy

“Life” Is An Education
by Dr Kathy

Life is an education as we’re paying attention to life and it is an education when we’re not. We have opportunities early on in our learning in our life’s journey to listen carefully from within to the real messages in life. What seems like a curse today may actually be a blessing in disguise. If we view every situation negatively, we can expect negative outcomes until we learn the divine lesson.

Every divine lesson in life is to show us a defect within ourselves and learn how to change it from a Negative to a positive. Our goal in life is to live in harmony with others by being the best possible person that I can be. To achieve this, I must walk in another man’s shoes to understand what it is I am missing and need to learn.

When we deny a problem and don’t learn the lesson the first time around, the lessons get harder and harder.

If we learn early and stay focused on what is important and can access all the resources we have within us and around us, our lessons seem to be less painful, but if we don’t, unfortunately, those lessons can create a lot of havoc in our lives.

“Chaos is Reality coming through the window!”

I would like to think that we’re all listening, staying out of negativity and holding onto faith but reality is, WE ALL have done, or said the wrong thing at the wrong time. So, when someone wrongs you, ask yourself, “Have I done this to someone else? Have I acted in the same or similar way to another person? If this were me doing the wrong, how would I hope to be received? Would I be forgiven? Would I be harshly judged? Would the person I wronged want to take vengeance upon me?

Since results (or consequences) don’t lie, I have noticed that for whatever our reasons, we have to be reminded to stay positive and judge not so we might have a better chance for a smoother ride.

Things to think about and lessons to learn:

Example:

“I’ve suffered Addiction

that I might learn mercy and forgiveness.”

Explain how you might learn mercy and forgiveness by suffering an addiction…

“When I was treated with mercy by others in AA despite my defects, it humbled me and now I am not so judgmental with other addicts because I have been in their shoes. Shaming others never draws them to recovery, but showing mercy brought me to my knees. I was forgiven by the people I had stolen from, hurt physically and those I hurt emotionally. Those that did not forgive me, caused me an overwhelming amount of guilt and grief that I carry with me to this day. I can’t fix it, I can’t change what happened. I understand how it feels to be forgiven and how it feels not to be. It’s an emotional burden we carry with us or is released because of forgiveness, therefore I can now forgive others freely.”

Do this exercise for each of the following sentences:

I’ve been misunderstood
that I might learn to be tolerant

I’ve known injustice
that I might learn to respect truth.

I’ve known conflict
that I might learn peace.

I’ve known humility
that I might gain wisdom.

I’ve been wronged
that I might learn to be considerate.

I’ve felt sorrow
that I might feel empathy and compassion.

I’ve been disliked and judged harshly
that It might teach me to love unconditionally.

I’ve been in need
that I might learn to be charitable.

I’ve been poor
that I might learn to be generous.

I’ve been wrong in my observations
that I might learn another’s perspective.

I’ve been troubled
that I might understand the pain of others.

I’ve been spiritually lost
that I might seek a higher power/spirituality.

I’ve been weak
that I might appreciate strength

I have been Sick
That I might value being in good health

Without these lessons in life of what value to others would I be?